Married or Attached  

GreenEyedBlues 54F  
181 posts
7/28/2019 6:37 am
Married or Attached

I don't want to be with someone sexually if they're married or attached - whether their partner knows about it or not.

Even if he tells me his partner is fully aware and supportive, I don't believe it. Even if it were true, I like to keep things simple and drama free. I just want to be with other single people like myself.

Sure, people can lie and say they're single. But when I figure out they're lying, I end it.

NOTE: I'm NOT talking about married / attached people who bring others into their sexual relationship.
Don't care - that's their business. I'll fuck 'em.
I feel bad for their partner but I'll still fuck 'em.
I feel bad for their partner so I won't do it.
If they're cheating on someone, they're assholes. I don't want anything to do with them.
Other - please explain below

GreenEyedBlues 54F  
40 posts
7/28/2019 6:39 am

Just curious. Yesterday I told a guy I wasn't interested because he's attached. He asked me why not. I answered that I try to steer clear of drama and his answer back sounded a bit butthurt.

Luv2bottom4u2 62M  
1360 posts
7/28/2019 6:53 am

I wouldn't fool with anyone if I knew they were attached and that there significant other didn't know about it.
Like you I prefer not to get involved if there is a home problem, but if there partner tells me personally it's ok, that's a different story

exit17couple 55M/50F  
116 posts
7/28/2019 6:59 am

When they leave Their “status” blank, or mention..must be discreet, it’s a dead giveaway they’re attached..

1980hwl 48M
67 posts
7/28/2019 7:05 am

I agree but don’t have to worry that often!

MyBaffies 49M
3566 posts
7/28/2019 7:16 am

Nope, it's not for me either.

I don't want to be that third person in the relationship which has to be kept secret, I don't wish to cause deception or lies in the relationship, don't want to have excuses told to me all the time.

Like you said, I don't want the drama of all that.


My Blog: MyBaffies

SomewhereSE 61M  
162 posts
7/28/2019 7:37 am

If the woman is cheating it’s a flat out no go, finding out after the fact is a deal breaker, I have no interest in having to deal with an angry significant other.

Given that in today’s society open relationships and permission to play is within the range of normal, there is a slim chance I might consider getting involved with an attached/married woman if I can ask questions and be more than reasonably certain that she is doing so by mutual arrangement with her significant other.

BigBadSteve94 25M
78 posts
7/28/2019 7:38 am

Yeah you are right somewhere deep down inside you know their partner isn’t like 100% with it even though they can act like it. Only was given an opportunity like this once and I did feel bad but still hooked up sadly lol

Mikemike107015 48M  
88 posts
7/28/2019 7:39 am

I prefer women who are attached but only if there partner gives them their blessing. I find single women become clingy even though I am up front about my desire to only be casual. I will not be with someone I know is cheating. Interestingly enough, I've been talking to a woman for a few months and we obviously share a mutual attraction. I've made it perfectly clear to her that not only will I not be with her physically while she is attached but that I also don't want to be the reason she becomes unattached. Quite simply I'm only interested in being with her if she breaks up with her boyfriend for her own reasons, not because of my interest in her. ✌

Satyr48 70M
1861 posts
7/28/2019 7:54 am

Men are rabid dogs when it comes to sex... You're wise not to believe them without hard (excuse the pun) evidence... Personally, I don't lie, because I don;t have to, but if a woman doesn't want a married guy, regardless, I respect that, and don't press... there's plenty of other women...
A few years ago, my wife would have been 100% with you, but lately her "standards" have slipped, and she isn't as strict about relationship standard... Her current attitude is that she's getting older, and her sexual drive and ability won't last much longer, so she's "stocking up" now...

Pleasing women in unbelievable ways for 45 years...
You could be next...

xxxncincy 43M
5 posts
7/28/2019 7:55 am

Just be real with your partner, if you not happy in the situation just leave and move on. Better and safer for both parties.

thinkingofyou12 62M
1378 posts
7/28/2019 8:44 am

It Depends, I see a married woman in an open relationship. I know her and her husband very well and all know and consent. Our relationship is not for everyone but as long as everyone communicates and knows, there may not be a problem.

1_bolt 52M  
1 post
7/28/2019 9:01 am

My wife and I have an open marriage. We both like to fuck a lot and I travel quite extensively. Sometimes I may be gone for several months. Because of this we both allow each other to play separately as long as we communicate to the other what we are doing. Sometimes it is just a simple text saying :Hey I'm getting laid".

2Saltie2 62F  
1510 posts
7/28/2019 10:24 am

No attached men for me. Even if I met her and she said it's ok.

Love all animals. Tolerates humans.

s2ndegree 60M  
9186 posts
7/28/2019 11:47 am

It certainly lends credence as to why people don't want to be seen here.
To many people these days really never give a second thought even care about the disservice they do to others emotional health!

Using more than all the road!

lediscret31 38M
11 posts
7/28/2019 2:10 pm

Qu\'en pensez-vous ??

C'est plus un site pour s'amuser et se passer le temps que pour faire des rencontre, mais en deux ans j'ai quand même rencontré deux personnes du sites avec qui j'ai eu quelques rapports, et vous ,

Srabon2017 31M
29 posts
7/29/2019 9:37 am

I don't know what is right or wrong?

sicky81 37M
23 posts
7/30/2019 5:26 am


MrRareity 59M  
3416 posts
7/30/2019 7:56 am

This maybe a sex site but I do have my standards. If a couple are swingers that's one thing, and I'm ok with that because all parties involved know. But when one person is married and says oh my husband isn't interested in sex any more, or can't get it up, and the man says that his wife has lost all of her sexual desires. Then do something about it there is help out there for you. But I refuse to go out, meet, or sleep with someone that is married when the other person doesn't know what's going on.

Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.~ Confucius

hotnhorny4nsafun 58M/43F  
1 post
7/30/2019 4:35 pm

Well we are attached and have very open communications about meeting others. We dont hide anything from each other at all. She has no desire to meet others without me at this time. I meet others but she is always aware of it BEFORE hand unless its a last minute thing and that happens very rarely at all. Some ladies have said they want to talk to her first to confirm however she refuses to do that because she feels she is forced to give approval to somebody to meet me, and i agree that we are adults and her nor I own each other. We have full trust and openness between us so no need to receive permission from her, if they require approval then I wont meet them.

rh1972 47M  
580 posts
7/30/2019 6:20 pm

I know it's going to lead to some trouble for me, but I will fuck them even if I do feel bad for their spouse - but I won't abide being cheated on myself.

fffinder2000 55M
78 posts
7/30/2019 7:08 pm

I agree, prefer singles for less drama. Also, if an individual is less than truthful regarding one topic, how much of a stretch will it be for them to be less than truthful in regard to other topics?
Last, in regard to profiles mentioning "discreet". I know it signals a red flag BUT the concern is not always in regard to relationship status. Professional and community image are concerns for some people.

Oxygen4fun 49M/47F  
12 posts
7/30/2019 7:24 pm

Mr Oxy is allowed to fuck other women, but we are always together. We never separate. For us, we enjoy the experience together. If the other woman is straight, then we play all 3 that way too. Mrs Oxy has a few guys in her pocket for mfm fun, notice that was mfm, because we always play yogether. One of the guys is upfront and already told us that if he meets a lady, we'd have to take a break or stop with him. We completely agree. Honesty and openess eliminates the Drama! Cheaters are so so sad! We won't have anything to do with cheaters and agree with you completely.

BigBeautiBarb 51F  
2 posts
7/30/2019 7:28 pm

Can these numbers be broken out between male/female? LOL!

Havnfn1971 53M
14 posts
7/30/2019 7:48 pm

When a female profiles says they are attached or married, I suspect immediately that the husband is bi and I am not interested. Since I never trust a married woman on this site, I stay clear.

nonamiezee 43F  
1 post
7/30/2019 9:23 pm

It's tight on a bisexual wife who has no interest in anyone else's man. If she has posted looking for a woman (NOT a unicorn or couple), don't assume that her husband is involved and don't presume he has no idea. Sometimes it is what it is and nothing more.

7315 posts
7/30/2019 10:05 pm



Soukyan 63M  
11 posts
7/31/2019 3:31 am

I've been really tempted a few times.

But I've only gone there when the guy knows what is going on.

How do I know he knows? Well, when he wants to watch, is one sign ...

oldman1973 71M/34F  
525 posts
7/31/2019 3:44 am

I Phon (F) will fuck and suck any man whether married or attached, I do not care if his partner knows or not. He need that dirty free sex same as me, but my husband is always there, takes pics and joins in.

This is a fucking sex site lets do it. I also do it with girls too in front of my husband but do not do sex without him there. I just love 3 hole sex anytime anywhere we can get it

mott105 65M
13 posts
7/31/2019 4:38 am

Good for you

mott105 65M
13 posts
7/31/2019 4:39 am

I do agree with you

routerdf220088 60M
48 posts
7/31/2019 6:54 am

its a matter for each person to make

dig76301 60M  
59 posts
7/31/2019 7:21 am

Really, who cares. Not here to care about another's problems. Got my own. Here for some adult fun, to enjoy each other for the short time we managed to arrange. That's all.

DWWD444 44M
15 posts
7/31/2019 11:32 am

Open marriages are probably the way to go

hookerman 64M  
14 posts
7/31/2019 2:39 pm

whoa, lets all remember, this is a site for Adults and Sex, what the other persons situation is doesn't matter, it's not our concern unless they involve you in it.

Attached, married, whatever it is, it's between the two of them and has nothing to do with you.

I do agree some people are serious fuckups and occasionally someone else will hurt thier partner and i've been involved, i feel bad for them but it's still not my concern.

we are grown ups here, it's sex, feelings are going to get hurt, but no one forced them to sign up here, no one forced them to meet for sex, it was a personal choice based on thier relationship and not my concern.

sexydad1167 51M  
1360 posts
7/31/2019 3:59 pm

I have been approached by several woman asking me to train them for their husbands and they would fully give themselves sexually to me. That their husbands know and want them trained by another man. They could even spend the night with me on occasion or do weekends. I could talk with the husbands and give them updates on the training. I told them no, not interested. If I am going to train a sub to give away, I'm going to keep her for myself. More importantly I do not want to share.

Breezysmooth33 22M
1 post
7/31/2019 5:29 pm

Don't care just fuck

illtrynow 53M
68 posts
7/31/2019 6:24 pm

do unto others as they have done to you----im fucking

motoneta56 62M
6 posts
7/31/2019 8:42 pm

Creo que todas las opiniones son validas me gusto leer los comentarios gracias

Masti01011978 40M
3 posts
7/31/2019 10:12 pm

I love fuck n what my partner wish as per her wish

burakcelik67 48M
72 posts
8/1/2019 2:21 am

their problem

fahrenheit451x2 56M
53 posts
8/1/2019 3:20 am

Be in the moment rather than letting all the baggage get in the way. I've been on both sides of the fence and it turns into a willingness to share the risk.

1seeking1 54F
1955 posts
8/1/2019 3:42 am

No thank you, yes amazing how good some people are at deception. I believe in honesty and karma.

bootlacebob 52M
11 posts
8/1/2019 6:08 am

I agree, I don't need the drama and don't need to be the one causing the drama. It's not for me.

tallfit4fwb67 51M
10 posts
8/1/2019 7:06 am

its their deal just dont add drama.. best to leave that out of the convo and have fun!

naughtyguy1950 69M
21 posts
8/1/2019 7:31 am

Been down that road once with a married woman. Won't do it again. To much drama.

madisonfwb 42M
9 posts
8/1/2019 8:06 am

I am respectful of both parties

Curiousthatsall9 45F  
11 posts
8/1/2019 10:22 am

Generally I say that's their business but I've learned that married guys are usually more trouble than they're worth. Unless they're traveling from out of town, then they can be fun.

Bluedragon6947 47M

8/1/2019 12:43 pm

I agree with you, I want an unattached person, who needs the BS

skydive61 59M
31 posts
8/1/2019 3:07 pm

This is a sex site and we are all adults (i think]

4DaBoy 54M  
3 posts
8/1/2019 7:40 pm

I am married, but my wife lost all interest in sex many years ago. I love my wife and certainly have no intention of leaving her. News flash - there is a hell of a lot more to marriage than sex, especially after over 20 years together. But, to protect my marital status, I prefer a woman who is also married and has as much to lose as I do. That way there's no misunderstandings and discretion is maintained.

wn2bottom 61M
4 posts
8/1/2019 8:16 pm

It's great with her husband/partner watching or participating! I've been with a few attached/married women alone too and it was fun.

need2knowit2 59M
186 posts
8/1/2019 10:16 pm

you will be surprised on how many married women fuck around behind their husbands back. I prefer married ladies, they don't get clingy.

Azbear1969 50M  
52 posts
8/1/2019 10:54 pm

I am married and do have permission to see others just as my wife has permission to do the same. I have been with another married woman and my wife and I have swapped. If the person is cheating without their other knowing, then I end it because don’t need that. If they say that they have permission, then we ask if we can check with their partner if that is true.

sexstarvedme1966 52M
307 posts
8/2/2019 2:59 am

What might have been really interesting is to split the questions up between the sexes. I have a suspicion that the majority of the "I'll fuck them anyway" answers come from the men, but I wonder how many come from the ladies...

h0rnyScubaD1ver 61M  
6 posts
8/2/2019 5:33 am

So, its tough being committed and no sex at home due to medical issues, my long term partner has no desire for sex and it painful. Told me to seek it elsewhere.. Whats a man to do.. Ive been seeking a woman who's other half has ED or something and just needs some good hard sex on a regular basis... Shit happens in life, everyone has a story.. Sometimes you stick with someone for other reasons...
Don't wish to hurt or embarrass anyone, I am attached and very careful.. Life happens...

PVJowe 59M/56F  
127 posts
8/2/2019 7:01 am

Guess I am different then a lot of women here but I don't ask and don't tell. The burden is on them if they want to cheat. Its none of my business as far as I am concerned.

louisianafun2 41M
25 posts
8/2/2019 7:37 am

Fun is fun...unless you're looking for a spouse.

HornyCoot4 67M  
3 posts
8/2/2019 10:17 am

Well, I didn't answer the married question until I was chatting up a woman and mentioned I was married, she got real pissed. I kind of got a charge out of it, but changed my status. However, it's cliché, but truthful that my wife's interest in sex is minimal.
Consequently, I'll fuck any man, woman or couple that is comfortable with fucking me.

southend57 57M
12 posts
8/2/2019 10:50 am

I truly believe humans are not wired to monogamous.

BiGuy4U53 56M
136 posts
8/2/2019 12:10 pm

i cheated on both my wives. all i can say is i would not ruin anybody elses marriage. because in a divorce nobody, i mean NOBODY no i would not be with any one married again

ItsHappening06 57M
16 posts
8/2/2019 1:09 pm

Never ask and I won’t know. It’s on them.

brow6902 54M
14 posts
8/2/2019 2:14 pm

swinging is a lifestyle and if they both agree I am in....especially if he wants to join in and make her even happier!

gemhunter1958 60M  
27 posts
8/2/2019 3:30 pm

I feel because I am bi Male happy they are marry or not But with a females must be single. Most wife's know if there male partner is bi and seeing and looking sex with a other male

couple4fun_STL 51M/43F  
5 posts
8/2/2019 4:02 pm

Depends on the situation. Poly and open relationships are becoming more of a thing. Cheating is not cool, but sometimes it's kinda hard to tell

fancy_legs 47F  
16 posts
8/2/2019 6:06 pm

I don't care to get involved in anyone that is married/has a girlfriend/ live in FWb or multiple fwb. If they are not truly single they are NOT worth my time. If they will cheat on someone they are already having a relationship with. They would definitely cheat on me. Don't need the drama or heart ache. If they are not happy with their own sex life. Get divorced, change their relationship before hurting someone else emotionally.
Communication is the key....

Funtime__19 29M
18 posts
8/2/2019 7:03 pm

Cheaters suck

campgdp6969 44M/41F  
4 posts
8/3/2019 6:01 am

Every situation is different, so it would depend on that person and situation.


mike1958773 61M
541 posts
8/3/2019 6:24 am

en lo personal soy divorciado lo he hecho con chicas casadas que tienen ganas x mal atendidas o su pareja viaja mucho x acuerdo entre ambas partes se ha consumado sin problemas

Fertilestream12 38M
5 posts
8/3/2019 11:33 am

Personally even when I was single I always had sex with married women. Though I told them ahead of time that I would only do them bareback. Simply because they were married, granted I got a few pregnant, but they seemed ok with that.

swfla56 63M
70 posts
8/3/2019 12:02 pm

I agree No bullshit drama free. Less problems more fun.

FitAndFrisky60 62M  
1 post
8/3/2019 1:30 pm

Here’s another “poll” for all of you:

If my spouse has no interest in sex (due to physical issues and/or other reasons), we’ve tried multiple rounds of counseling and that didn’t help, but we love each other and have a great relationship otherwise, then my spouse gives his/her blessing for me to get sex elsewhere as long as I’m safe and discreet and don’t fall in love, what do I do?

A. Try a site like this, but not find anyone because they don’t want “drama.”
B. Seek “professional help.”
C. Suck it up and do without physical intimacy the rest of my life.

Note that “get a divorce” isn’t an option here, for those of you who think that’s the answer to every marital problem. 😏

Gingerbread3000 33M
24 posts
8/3/2019 5:07 pm


earth2adam4u 55M
28 posts
8/3/2019 5:37 pm

Wow - it seems like most people "don't care". I am not sure that is how I would phrase it but I do believe that people are going to fuck who they want to fuck and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it. So, any "arrangement" that dose not recognize that is hiding from the reality of life.

LickDripLick333 46M
3 posts
8/4/2019 8:50 am

This looks like a good way to get some free points

rubymn 49F  
179 posts
8/4/2019 9:39 am

As clearly stated in my bio:
"Single/Div/Widowed Only
No Open/Poly/Married/Separated/Attached in any way shape or form.
I'm single and a free spirit who wishes to avoid those dramas."

And still married men and couples message me often. F'n twits.

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Starthavingfun06 57M
22 posts
8/4/2019 12:13 pm

Best to just steer clear of married, imo. To each their own, I don't judge.

farmboy499 46M
23 posts
8/6/2019 10:08 am

cheating is cheating its not right especially a freinds wife

couple496fun 40M/38F
37 posts
8/6/2019 3:53 pm

I started fucking a married man cause his wife was a bitch and i kind of like it.

FishersMan67 52M
23 posts
8/6/2019 5:26 pm

why should I worry about married or attached. It's a fake constraint the religions have designed to manipulate people into feeling guilt. Guilt that the religion can then twist to their own measures. So if someone is horny there is a reason and I believe that they deserve at least a momentary respite. Who am I to turn away a horny woman.

Ccuntfucker 29M
28 posts
8/7/2019 10:43 pm

i dont care if its mutual

moviestar7 62M  
28 posts
8/8/2019 7:49 am

my best way of doing things.... is meet them for coffee talk with them for a while ..then after a couple of coffee if we both want to do something... we will... but I also ask if they are married or attached... And I tell them that I do not want to hurt them so either I just come friends with them or not … I do not want to hurt them or brake up there family.... I would feel really bad about it ….

Discreetmeetfish 52M
22 posts
8/8/2019 2:24 pm

when it is as difficult as it is to finally meet someone I'm not going to rule out and potential partner based on a piece of information that Is only their business.

vagatariun 62M
53 posts
8/9/2019 6:25 am

Now that is a great question, would be interesting

LetsGetStarte06 59M
12 posts
8/10/2019 6:16 pm

I don't ask and I don't have to give it a second thought!

BiGuy48125 44M
47 posts
8/10/2019 8:42 pm

I'm in an open marriage and she encourages me to find others to be with. But yes, nobody believes me.

Looking86192 32M
3 posts
8/11/2019 5:50 pm

to each their own

18 posts
8/12/2019 12:45 am

it is mutual desire to have sexual satifaction .

Dickinsideha 47M
46 posts
8/12/2019 4:18 am

It is sad if you feel the need to cheat or go outside of marriage for sex. But as humans, we have needs.

armydommguy6 35M
3 posts
8/13/2019 6:20 pm

like married women

themick6982 64M
33 posts
8/15/2019 7:12 am

Only if the other partner is there, as in threesome.

101daydream 54M
5 posts
8/15/2019 7:25 am

I'm one of those guys. Everyone lives in a different world and their are circumstances that drive a person here. I hope u understand that and that we are not evil. Everyone needs to be honest and live by the rules they set for themselves.

WhatsItGoing2Be1 59M
9 posts
8/18/2019 8:00 am

Stay clear of the situation.

favbeau 32F
4 posts
8/20/2019 2:30 am

Most men are cheaters and they will say anything to be with another one..I know this cause I was married to one once

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