How would you rate the reliablity of the IM on this site?  

Shawomeguy 44M  
53 posts
8/1/2019 3:21 pm
How would you rate the reliablity of the IM on this site?

How would you the reliablity of the on this site?
Lots of problems
Problems sometimes
Not to many problems
Problem free

Shawomeguy 44M  
45 posts
8/1/2019 3:23 pm

Its a shitshow

redrockrascal 60M
20176 posts
8/1/2019 3:45 pm

I've rarely had a problem with it.

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iwant2learnit 49M  
468 posts
8/1/2019 3:45 pm

It's overwhelmingly garbage. Every time they "update" or "improve" it, they somehow find a way to make it worse.

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2Saltie2 62F  
1489 posts
8/1/2019 3:46 pm

Problem free. When not ignoring them it works great. I tell the paying members to read my profile then I close it. It shows as received. If its a standard my answer varies on what the person said. It can be I don't use the im. Ewww if it's a dick picture. I then close it. Never any problem.

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Shawomeguy replies on 8/2/2019 2:22 am:
I cant figure out of it is the volume or their servers are shit!

lookiinngnsa69 39M
10 posts
8/1/2019 3:53 pm

This site is getting really Horrible

chris11241124xx 39M
10 posts
8/1/2019 3:55 pm


Hardthicksteel46 43M
17 posts
8/1/2019 4:01 pm

was bad, seems to be better by a little

DiscoverMidlife 53M
31 posts
8/1/2019 4:02 pm

worse by the day

SomewhereSE 61M  
161 posts
8/1/2019 4:11 pm

About as useful as a wet match.

10901w 53T
30 posts
8/1/2019 4:20 pm

very poor

jajo696 64F
627 posts
8/1/2019 4:30 pm

Loads of problems.....not consistent. It will say ' delivered' yet it doesnt post to the receiver. Been this way for years, despite being reported. its quirky, at best ~~

oraldeelite 56M
16 posts
8/1/2019 4:41 pm

always seems to freeze up on me, or the other person doesnt seem to get my messages or vice-versa. Also wish it would inform you when the chatter leaves the IM.

albanyguy4funow 51M
1 post
8/1/2019 4:44 pm

It's a money grab now. Since they took away the 3 im's they use to give daily. Cant even answer gold members im's they send you.

Shawomeguy replies on 8/2/2019 2:21 am:
They seem to be pretty good at screwing around with access!

cum4Urpussynow 42M
25 posts
8/1/2019 4:50 pm

Sucks anymore. And when did they take away the 3 free IMs daily? Can't even answer friends without spending 10 points. Used this site back in the early 2000's, it was a lot better back then.

SlyF0xxx 30M
13 posts
8/1/2019 5:15 pm

It's borderline worthless.

lonlyforlove2 76M  
2242 posts
8/1/2019 5:31 pm

Over the years and even today I found that the IM worked fairly nice. Now this is with a captive audience, to just try to IM any and all on line you will get almost no-response, most people just don't want it and the way it is used with such disrespect makes others just stay away. but with a group of friends that know who is on IM , I find it is very useful..

finally_play_tm2 49M
13 posts
8/1/2019 7:31 pm

It's a real shit show now... like the previous person commented.. 10 plus years ago was worth paying for - which I did but . now no way... plus all the censoring even in chats it's ridiculous...

Shawomeguy replies on 8/2/2019 2:22 am:
You just never know if your messages are going through!

Funpleaser70 48M  
33 posts
8/1/2019 7:38 pm

It blows.
Enough said

FirmHandFH 42M
8 posts
8/1/2019 8:53 pm

Shitty, At least bring back the 3 free im a day. Shitty im and now they hope to force payment?

Arnica53 59F
164 posts
8/1/2019 9:12 pm

It is OK... after all if is Free for ME!

Yours_4A_knight 54M  
1142 posts
8/1/2019 10:48 pm

I am reasonably certain that for me at least the big problem with the IM is that the woman I am attempting to send it to has to agree to read it and respond

Not the Whole Truth but the truth that I can see.

wilsden 51M
17 posts
8/2/2019 1:07 am

no free i'ms, less females, hardly any good chat in rooms site is getting worse by the day. used to be a gold member but no better results than being standard.

NakedHermit4u 50M  
9 posts
8/2/2019 3:01 am

Still annoys me if gold, why IM? Gold types try to IM me. PM me, that is one of the reasons to be gold. IM never works. I have to switch browsers and desktop view to mobile view to work it. Now, my cursed has letters added to the right side and try to edit and delete them but keyboard keeps adding letters. can take 5 min to type a reply. 4 different keyboards 3 different browsers. Whatever changes they made recently suck.

BiggLala 47F  
26438 posts
8/2/2019 10:10 am

Which 'version' of the site do you use?

I only ask because when I frequented IM, I never had issues when using my laptop. I always had problems when using my mobile device, i.e the mobile version of the site. Eventually, I stopped using the mobile version and only used my laptop...never had a problem on *my* end. If someone chatted with me using their mobile...there was always a problem on *their* end.

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allnitelong2063 55M
159 posts
8/2/2019 10:36 am

It sucks!

jonilovebig 72M
165 posts
8/2/2019 11:55 am

it sucks

yourethehost 54M

8/2/2019 9:55 pm

A work in progress with no end in sight

hunting4real 61M/52F
35 posts
8/3/2019 5:17 pm

You should have had a selection (POS) piece of shit

hunting4real 61M/52F
35 posts
8/3/2019 5:18 pm

You should have had a selection of POS..piece of shit

hunting4real 61M/52F
35 posts
8/3/2019 5:20 pm

I rate it as a POS

earth2adam4u 55M
22 posts
8/3/2019 6:48 pm

Its always difficult to tell why someone does not respond. You just do not know if the messenger failed or if the person ignored your message. has changed this numerous times over the years and it is still unreliable unfortunately.

CloverTy 37M
1 post
8/4/2019 9:23 am

It's an inconvenience more often that not.

ItsHappening06 57M
16 posts
8/4/2019 11:14 am

I believe it is inconsistent. Sometimes it works, other times it doesn’t. Never know if your message was read or not.

eleutheros2018 62M
1 post
8/4/2019 11:45 am

It's the main reason most people are on here for, to chat...if it doesn't work as a free member, do you really think they're going to pay for the same crappy ass service???

Starthavingfun06 57M
22 posts
8/4/2019 1:15 pm

Not reliable at all! Hit or miss!

YourGoodLukCharm 60M
32 posts
8/4/2019 11:02 pm

Can't agree more with all that the IM sucks. True you never know if your message is truly received. And yes now you can't even earn points by logging in/out, or by comments to earn the points to chat. My IM has seemed corrupted since the last upgrade. When you click on the view more members: when I get a few hundred miles from my location it will sometimes skip to areas much further away & completely skip areas closer. Like it will go from San Francisco to Washington State while omitting Oregon. Yes in the early 2000's it worked much better & I liked the fact you could continuously scroll further out from your area to places further out, not time sucking your way through clicking view more members constantly. Also miss being able to search by zip code which was hand y when travelling somewhere. Have felt the points system is discrimenatory towards men and now it sounds like they are allowing women free chat on the IM but not men, and we no longer are even allowed 3 free chats per day or can earn the points to have a chat! Bullshit! Also I 've always felt that a "chat" is a conversation between two or more persons. If you send off an IM to someone and it is "delivered", but not "read" how does that qualify as a "chat" It's a fricken one way dialogue with oneself!. Also hate in the latest IM "upgrade" that they have removed the miles a person is away from you & they shrunk the profile photo which no longer enlarges a bit if you hover over it with a mouse. Those are improvements!? And you want me to pay money for this? How about the removal of the "search" parameter whereby you could set the search to exclude people that haven't been active in more than a week or two. Can't do that anymore either. Gotta trawl through all the inactive members too! My areas got a bunch. And this is considered better!? Does it get better with Gold? Why is there not a membership page you can pull up that compares a Standard Membership to a Gold membership? Having been a Gold Member in the past, all I can say is that we have lost so many privileges, & they have removed so many of the things that really made the site function better for members that I have a hard time saying yes to Gold. This site should be developed to function on behalf of its members success to enable conversations, & possible successful meetings amongst us, long before the owner sees a profit in his pocket. Our success first, virtually guarantees their success in the long run, but since the ownership change it's been a slow race to the bottom fed by an insatiable greed to monetize every facet of this site, like the buzzmode concept, Sell'em an overpriced vibrator, & now you see the same old cam girls on all the time, instead of camming for fun; & certainly this makes for a fairer platform for men because there aren't great buzzmode toys for us, nor can we earn anywhere near the same points as a woman. Could probably say more, but that's it in a nutshell, old site was far better IMHO than what we have currently

pineconer9 68M
236 posts
8/5/2019 11:49 am

The very idea of being charged for chats that never get delivered and also the lag time from when I person logs off till the do not show up on the menu and then you try to connect and do not know they are not on line and still get charged

Discreetmeetfish 52M
20 posts
8/5/2019 1:25 pm

works great at taking points, but i've no confidence whatsoever that my msgs are being delivered.

Youngggunn2 24M  
5 posts
8/5/2019 3:24 pm

It is problematic to say the least. I have recurved messages to go back a page and then I cannot see the message again. This is super frustrating and it needs to be fixed. I have had little luck with the IM aspect of the website

ECCpl4F 53M/40F  
29 posts
8/6/2019 11:21 am

It's terrible.

Wife2Loan 57M/55F  
5 posts
8/6/2019 1:00 pm

If you are not friends and one of you is on a cell..forget it!..and the words that get censored are ridiculously vague irregularly edited...otherwise it works more than it doesn't.

CuntHunt0 42M
15 posts
8/8/2019 8:48 am

Not just IM, the whole site's mobil version is crap. You can't even search for name????????????

Lippenbalsam 60M
48 posts
8/8/2019 11:56 am

A big crappy Bug.
These shitty Thing is scuffing my Points..
Are all their Programmers completely stoned?

realarce 46M
2 posts
8/8/2019 5:40 pm

Messages and profiles, how many are bots afterall?

youngcub940 25M
4 posts
8/8/2019 7:18 pm

Pretty pretty pretty good

GuySrchn 40M
16 posts
8/9/2019 4:10 am

Nevertheless it is hit and miss

Gg1820191 18M
12 posts
8/10/2019 9:24 am


LetsGetStarte06 59M
12 posts
8/10/2019 6:22 pm

IM has issues most of the time. Works at times. Not all messages get thru.

BiGuy48125 44M
47 posts
8/10/2019 8:44 pm

Chat sucks. Why would I want to pay to be here if nothing works?

stilldoingitto 61M/58F
13 posts
8/11/2019 7:38 am

all the fakes and frauds sure don't help much....sometimes slow or doesn't work at all....used to get free gold...not anymore....single men have about 1% chance of getting laid here

25 posts
8/15/2019 8:56 am

Too many horny guys/gals on at one time is my guess for tech tech issues.

snorthup 54M
13 posts
8/15/2019 12:07 pm

Lots of issues like creating extra letters in messaging not to mention frequent resetting and getting botted and losing points.

spicybicpl 37M/36F
37 posts
8/18/2019 4:19 am

Its getting worse day by day

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