Why be online then?  

aflower2c 45F  
6291 posts
9/11/2019 3:11 pm
Why be online then?



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Little miss flower

Written from a small city middle of no where kink thinkin kinda gal.


aflower2c 45F  
14088 posts
9/11/2019 3:13 pm

One thing I have been watching is this downward hate-filled spiral that NA culture seems to be caught up in. Everyone hating on everyone else, yet want that instant gratification delivered with a smile, right now!.

I just don't understand it, why be on dating sites if you really do not like your target audience
I read blogs from standard dating sites, and in the international discussion groups, ... and WOW, why be on dating sites that are geared for people to meet if you don't even like those other people. Why be online period!

I know I don't meet from this particular site because my experience proved these are not the men I want to meet, I am searching for those that are fun, emotionally free to enjoy life, sensual, and so on because mechanical does not work for me as a single person.

But I am on sites designed for adults to find other adults, and some of the profiles I've seen and the limited convos I've had in the last few years makes me really wonder why many even bother being there.
At 45 I get maybe one message a month on match, usually from a hookup dude or fake profile. So maybe lots of people just don't bother and most profiles are just placeholders
Especially with the amount of attractive men on those sites, there's no way his roster is at all empty. Lol. So I block them, but the dating sites made it tedious to block profiles or hide them. 🙄

But where are the 'real' people at?
The ones that are genuinely open to meeting others.

Kinda like the Madison incident, if the dating sites removed those people that are not looking for a relationship or dating, would it just be a handful of lonely souls left standing
They have hookup sites for those seeking instant gratification, they should just stay on those sites, especially if I can't look on here for kink friendly and sex positive men. 🙄🙄🙄

Anyway,
The amount of poison flowing through all the sites right now, makes me stick to reading only from a few kink positive bloggers that I follow and I try and stay away from reading in the general public section.... because fuck that shit gets disheartening even more than my own personal struggles.

I'm trying hard to find the right partners, but reading those posts just make me cringe and think about just sticking to toys only.

If you dislike men, why be on dating sites where you are looking for one.
If you dislike women, why be on a dating site where you are looking for one.
Both need to just get off line and leave the searches to those that are trying to find more passion in this world of distrust, ha8, fear, instant gratification.

Little miss flower

Written from a small city middle of no where kink thinkin kinda gal.


aflower2c 45F  
14088 posts
9/11/2019 3:18 pm

To be clear, this is not a dating site, it's a sex site for nsa/anonymous hookups. So not the site I am writing about.

I am writing about the standard dating sites, you know the ones you insisted I look on to find ongoing partners.
This site is a given that men don't like women and want to stay closed off from any kind of emotions. Yes, I finally get it. 😎

Little miss flower

Written from a small city middle of no where kink thinkin kinda gal.


Pussycumwanker 48M
98 posts
9/11/2019 3:29 pm

I read this.

I cum here every day. That's a whole lot of cum to consider.


aflower2c 45F  
14088 posts
9/11/2019 3:31 pm

As for the 'attention' because I know someone will gripe about it. 🙄

The shallow validation of being on these sites and posting photos or the occasional blog about sex is not the attention that is referred to in the meme.

I post nudes just to remind myself that I am not dead, and that someone sees them even if they are internet strangers who just want to see another interchangeable person. Believe me, I knew that well before sex therapy.
You receive no attention in the meatspace, so you seek it online.
My ego needs a handjob every so often, because I'm not dead or invisible... at least not in here I'm not invisible. The kink site I am because I'm too old to be noticed. Lol
The dating site, just other bloggers visit my page. 🤷‍♀️

Little miss flower

Written from a small city middle of no where kink thinkin kinda gal.


DJB55343 66M  
2 posts
9/11/2019 4:18 pm

So why are you on Fbookhookups.com if you have no intention of meeting anyone? You are just as much as the problem on here as your complaining about.


aflower2c replies on 9/11/2019 4:21 pm:
I was waiting for your kind

Because this is a blog site, video site, and online conversations. Its not strictly a profile site.
Just like why do you bother with looking at blogs if you are just here to meet?

aflower2c replies on 9/11/2019 4:42 pm:
The other huge difference-> I am VERY clear in my profile that I AM NOT MEETING from this site. I am not saying I'm meeting then tell everyone no when they message, just so I can receive messages.

The profiles I'm talking about are stating they are meeting, but then usually include something negative about the target audience.

aflower2c replies on 9/11/2019 4:43 pm:
Is that clear enough?

(Limited word count when typing from a cell, its kinda annoying)

aflower2c 45F  
14088 posts
9/11/2019 4:26 pm

Not just for "yes/no hookup now"

Thanks for stopping by

Little miss flower

Written from a small city middle of no where kink thinkin kinda gal.


jolielaide 48F  
697 posts
9/11/2019 4:40 pm

flower is speaking FACTS!!


aflower2c replies on 9/11/2019 4:46 pm:
I'm just kinda frustrated with being on paid dating sites and still have to wade thru the lame profiles and hookup guys.
🤷‍♀️

But the negativity I came across today on a dating geared blog site, was basically a gender war. Why be on those sites then if you really dont like the other side.

Bud_Bot 43M
158 posts
9/11/2019 6:19 pm

I get what you are saying. I have seen the same thing on other dating sites. Does not make sense but people are people. Enjoy your Hump Day!


aflower2c replies on 9/11/2019 7:47 pm:
Its the women vs men blogs around the dislike for each other that I really dont understand.

I am frustrated but I am still hoping to find a man bec I enjoy thier company, i have never said I hated men yet want them to want me.

Mr00Fun4U 60M  
384 posts
9/11/2019 6:33 pm

So true and I actually wonder if anyone is behind some of these profiles. I feel like its when Dirty Harry/The Enforcer steps into that sex club and these little old ladies are there sending out letter and putting in lipstick to seal the letters with a kiss.

I can't tell you how many Women are using Canada or US cities but are from Ghana. The fraud is so sad because they all use the same suck ass story.

I can't complain because I have met some wonderful Ladies as a result of the blog. I enjoy in our correspondence.

Thank you for being real.

Why be online then


aflower2c replies on 9/11/2019 7:45 pm:
I think they may be real, or have been real, but they have since just gave up and use sites as a game to play while bored.
Or they play games and say they are open to dating/ongoing but are only looking for nsa/anonymous sex.
Believe me guys, if you ask enough women if they want to hookup eventually one will say yes. Quit pretending you want more.

sogomogo 28M
10 posts
9/11/2019 7:46 pm

well, everyone have different definition of fun. What I find as fun might not be for you.
Nothing can be done of fake profiles, nada


aflower2c replies on 9/12/2019 8:09 am:
You missed the point completely, but thanks for stopping by.

buddy5501 55M
25 posts
9/11/2019 8:45 pm

Perhaps, if you add a few more pictures of yourself you would get the connectivity you desire.


aflower2c replies on 9/12/2019 8:08 am:
I have 10 photos up, face and full body.

Bud_Bot 43M
158 posts
9/11/2019 8:45 pm

aflower2c replies on 9/11/2019 9:47 pm:
Its the women vs men blogs around the dislike for each other that I really dont understand.

I am frustrated but I am still hoping to find a man bec I enjoy thier company, i have never said I hated men yet want them to want me.


Real people behind the blogs, so there will be some dislike for each other just like in the real world. It happens.

I have read your blogs. I know you have never said you hated men Some day you will find a man that fits you and pleasures you.

Enjoy your night!


aflower2c replies on 9/12/2019 8:12 am:
I block a few angry men every month on the other sites. Thier projection of anger onto me is rather weird considering I am nit even close to what they are looking for, yet they feel the need to troll my blogs.
Dudes if the 20 yr olds dont want to bang you, dont get grumpy at your last resort. 🙄

proteus_2a 53M
7614 posts
9/12/2019 12:45 am

I've found that the frustration, hate, bitching and preaching happening on the blogs is part and parcel of real life my lady - on the meatspace as you eloquently put it

And yes, negative blogs tend to bring us down , making us wonder why the fuck have we lost 2 mins of our life

It's the rreassurance of the positive feedback that keeps us coming back to that virtual carnival ( Satyrs, Fauns, and Dragons included- all a manifestation of our inned selves )

Cheers, and keep being you

P


aflower2c replies on 9/12/2019 7:02 am:
Its really apparent on the public blog sites that there is such a rift between the sexes...
But i do laugh at the attractive women that complain about the attention -> Get Off the Web if you don't want the attention.
Or change your age to 45 and from kamloops.

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