Gender-fluid, pansexual, polyamorous introvert seeks cool and interesting people for friendships, in and out of the bedroom. Over the past decade or so, I've had a chance for a lot of personal exploration, which led to choosing those labels (gender-fluid, polyamorous, pansexual) for myself.
[u]Gender-Fluid:[/u] aka, crossdresser for some people. For me, personally, calling myself a male crossdresser didn't quite feel right. I live on a gender spectrum - some days almost entirely masculine-presenting, and others almost entirely feminine presenting. So I found "gender-fluid" to be the best descriptor. I get a regular manicure, including polish. There's a story behind it, actually. Feel free to ask me as an icebreaker. :) I've also opted to only wear women's panties. I honestly find them more comfortable than men's, and they have a much better variety of fabrics, colors, patterns, etc. Beyond that, any other feminine presentation is, for now, mostly closeted. My wife and (adult) know and accept me for who I am. A small handful of friends know. Beyond that, I only feminize in private. If it's not your thing, that's OK. Beyond the previously mentioned nails and underwear, if we were to meet it would otherwise be entirely male-presenting.
[u]Pansexual:[/u] aka, bi for some people. In fact, I originally chose to identify as bi when my self-exploration started. But once I discovered my gender-fluidity, "bi" didn't seem to fit. "Bi" implies there are two options; I know there are people who choose those options to be "my gender" and "everybody else." [i]For me[/i], it implied "male" and "female". And since I view gender as being a spectrum rather than a binary choice, I found I preferred this label.
I was in denial about it for a very long time, unfortunately. So, my experience with penises is limited. I've sucked cock, but never had a guy cum in my mouth (yet). There are some stories there, too, so feel free to ask if you'd like. :) My wife has used her vibrators on me (though never actually pegged me - bucket list item!), but I've never been penetrated by a penis - another bucket list item! :)
[u]Polyamorous:[/u] aka open relationship, aka ethically non-monogamous (ENM) for some people. Not long after we were married, my wife and I got into swinging - including meeting people from here on several occasions, some that we're still friends with today. So right from the start, "monogamy" didn't fit for us. When we decided to have , we took a pause from swinging, though my wife was OK with me continuing to play with couples we already knew. After our 2nd , my wife got her tubes tied, and we dabbled in swinging again off and on. However, over the last decade or so my wife has completely lost her libido. Yes, it's probably something medical; no, we're not interested in hearing advice. :) However, I still have the proverbial green light, if I should happen to meet somebody. (Which, I assume obviously, is why I'm here.) As an aside here, this can be verified if doing so is important to you. Just ask after we chat a bit to see if we have any chemistry.
So while I'd be quite comfortable describing our relationship as either open or ENM, I like poly better. Poly, again [i]to me[/i], implies multiple relationships are possible. In the best-case scenario, you get different fulfillment from each of those relationships. I love my wife, and I don't see that changing; but we all could use more friends, and if one (or more ;) ) of those friends can also help me fulfill what I'm missing sexually than it's a double-win.
Due to some medical issues, I deal with ED. I can get myself off, but I don't get hard enough for penetration at the moment. Hopefully the doctors figure things out and the "plumbing" starts working again soon. But I figured full disclosure was for the best here. Viagra has worked (to varying degrees) in the past, and I'm completely willing to get a new prescription if something arises here. I Also have two cock extensions designed for guys with ED. One is a fairly normal 7 inches long and 1.7 inches in diameter. The second is a monster 9 inches long and 2 inches in diameter - it's huge! Anyway, I wanted to bring it up out of fairness; hopefully it's not a deal-breaker - there are so many options that we can use to still have a fucking good time. >:)
I'm open to a lot, with a lot of interests - Here's a short list, but there's certainly more than this.
⢠[b]Sex[/b]. I guess it's obvious, but figured I'd go ahead and say so. I [i][b][u]LOVE[/u][/b][/i] eating pussy, and really miss it. I love fingering a woman, finding her g-spot while also rubbing her clit. And as mentioned above, I'd love to experience more fun times with a penis. :)
⢠[b]Kink exploration[/b]. Mine, yours, or both. There's very little I would outright say no to; but there are things I would need to build trust and rapport with you first. Some of them are listed below.
⢠[B]Makeup help.[/B] It seems the more I think I learn, the more confused (and frustrated!) I get. Can you help teach me the basics? I can "pay" you with homemade cookies, if you like. :) Or, of course, other ways. ;)
⢠[B]Massages[/B]. "Normal", sensual, and/or erotic. I know I often have stiff and sore muscles. I'd love somebody to trade massages with.
⢠[B]Cuddles![/B] Platonic or sensual. Either is good. Everybody could use more cuddle time!
⢠[B]Golf[/B]. I've never been, and would love to learn. Can you teach a beginner?
⢠[B]Camping.[/B] In my teens and into my late 20s, I went camping often; it was always so relaxing. I'd love to go again, but it's been so long I'm afraid of what I've forgotten causing a problem. Whether we go camping as "just friends" or more, either is quite OK with me.
⢠[b]Nude Beach and/or Nudist Resort.[/b] I've never been, but would love to experience both. I can't see going alone, though. Wanna go together?
» Related, are you local and a home nudist? I'd be interested in at least chatting.
⢠[b]Games![/b] I love board games and card games. Do you? Let's get together and play some. It'll be a great way to get to know one another.
⢠[b]Watching.[/b] Being a voyeur is [COLOR red]HOT[/COLOR]! Do you want somebody to watch you and your partner without that person actually joining in? I'd love to be trusted enough to be invited to watch.
» Related, if you have a fucking machine and/or a symbian, I'd [i]really[/i] love to watch. I suspect it's one thing to see them on videos, but an entirely other level in person!
⢠[b]Being your "girlfriend"[/b]. Take me on a dinner date, and treat me like a lady. Bring me back to your place afterward and [i]really[/i] treat me like a lady! Not for everybody, of course; and I need way more confidence in my femme appearance before going in public.
And there's more, of course. But I just wanted to give some ideas. Let's talk, and see what we have in common and we can go from there. If we develop a non-sexual friendship, I've very OK with that - we can never have enough friends!
Der ideale Mensch für mich I don't know that I have an "ideal" person, because there's so much involved. What I can say here, though, is that a good match for me is more than looks. And in fact, I might go so far as to say looks are secondary. I prefer to connect with people.
Erzähle eine deiner liebsten sexuellen Fantasien. Sei ganz offen!:
I would love find somebody - or a couple - I trust, so I could
dress up completely feminine for them, We'd go dinner
and I'd be treated entirely like a lady the whole night.
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After dinner, we'd go back their place where I'd also
get treated like a lady the whole night. The evening would
start with making out, smearing my makeup. Eventually,
when my date was hot and hard, I'd get bent over, have my skirt
/ dress lifted, panties pulled down, and fucked silly.
Welche sexuellen Aktivitäten erregen dich?:
Oralverkehr geben, Oralverkehr empfangen, Analsex, Sexspielzeuge (Vibratoren, Dildos etc.), Natursekt (Wassersport/Urin), Rimming, Leichtes Bondage, Spanking, Dreier, Herrin/Herr - Sklave/Sklavin, Cross-Dressing, Gemeinsames Masturbieren, Spiele mit Essen, Voyeurismus, Handschellen/Schäkel, Augen verbinden, Massagen
Welche Eigenschaften sind für dich am wichtigsten wenn du nach einem Sexpartner suchst?:
Körperliche Anziehungskraft, Gleiche oder ähnliche Fetische, Die Fähigkeit diskret zu sein, Offen gegenüber Dreiecksbeziehung und/oder Orgien, Bereitschaft alles frei zu diskutieren und zu versuchen, Einverstanden damit, eine verpflichtungsfreie sexuelle Beziehung einzugehen, Niveau der Kreativität und des Interesses an ungewöhnlichem
Hast du schon mal davon geträumt mit einer berühmten Persönlichkeit Sex zu haben? Mit wem? Was reizt dich an dieser Person?:
Honestly, no. Celebrities don't do much for at all.
Hattest du schonmal Cybersex?:
Ich habe es ausprobiert, aber es ist nicht das gleiche.