[B]FOR STARTERS, WE ARE NOT LOOKING FOR SINGLE MEN OF ANY KIND. THIS INCLUDES POLY MEN PLAYING WITHOUT THEIR WIVES OR GIRLFRIENDS, MEN IN OPEN RELATIONSHIPS, AND MARRIED MEN LOOKING TO CHEAT. PUT MORE SIMPLY, WE ARE NOT LOOKING FOR MEN WHO DON'T PLAY WITH A BISEXUAL FEMALE PARTNER!!!![/B] We ARE looking for is an attractive bisexual female under the age of 49 (or perhaps a couple with such a female as long as the guy is attractive and knows how to act properly in a lifestyle/poly scenario, but experience has taught us that such men may be even more rare than unicorns). No offense to anyone older than 49, but chemistry is a must and we've not found ourselves physically drawn to anyone over that age. If you feel you may be the exception, feel free to send us a message with a couple of recent pics, because we aren't age snobs. Even if we aren't attracted, we'll be friends with anyone who shares common peralities or interests. 1) We've learned that most people just look at pics and don't even bother to read our profile, so we won't be wasting nearly as much time on this intro as we have when we've rewritten it in the past. For the rare few that really want to get to know us better, all you have to do is read our blogs or ask... ;-) 2) We are POLY. We are NOT SWINGERS. Many people don't seem to know what this means, so we'll explain. We have ZERO interest in fucking strangers. If we click with you and we find you attractive, then we are likely to become fast friends who are definitely open to benefits, but that first part absolutely has to happen first. 3) Some people would argue that you can meet the criteria from #2 and still just be swingers, and they might be right. The part that makes us poly is that we also find it very difficult to have an ongoing sexual friendship with someone without developing some sort of emotional tie to them, and if such an emotional tie isn't reciprocated over time, then eventually - just like in a "regular" relationship - we will begin to grow apart from them. 4) We will always be each other's PRIMARY relationship. This doesn't mean that if we find the right per/people, we will have hesitations about being exclusive or being in some form of long-term relationship. However, we have never demanded exclusivity from anyone we've gotten more serious with, only some level of physical/emotional and time commitment. We also understand that being in a relationship with two people where you are not their primary relationship could become a concern for some, and this is why we have been open to various levels of commitment in the past (so anyone dating us can still see others if they want - as long as we have some idea who those people are). If you are in a relationship with us, we will do everything we can to make you feel safe and secure within that relationship... although we may not be in any rush to move you in with us, lol. 5) If you ask for complete exclusivity with us, then you need to be prepared to maintain some level of commitment with us. If you pretend to want exclusivity and commitment but it is really a poorly disguised attempt to clip our wings and tie us down with nothing in return but your desire to call us up for friendly sex whenever you're in the mood, then we aren't likely to wait too long before we drop you like a bad habit. 6) We still list ourselves as open to the possibility of another couple but to be honest, we see it as highly unlikely that it will happen. Nearly every bad experience that we've had in the past year in this lifestyle has been the fault of the male half of a couple, and we're just frustrated and done with it at this point. For a couple to have a chance, the guy needs to be straight (we could also be okay with bi as long as he has an understanding that he and Xac will NEVER be playing together), hopelessly in love with his wife/girlfriend, and not drowning in manliness and masculinity. If he doesn't have a soft, tender side that he's well in touch with, there is no chance in hell that he will be getting in touch with mine! ;-) I'm not a very big fan of men in general based upon a few horrible life experiences, and Xac really isn't either due to an entirely different set of horrible life experiences. Put more simply, we have trust issues with men. If Xac and I don't both trust him completely, no other man will ever get close to me again, and I am fine with it that way.

이상형: Our ideal person/people:

1) has a great appreciation for music and can easily accept the fact that although we listen to a wide variety of things, we hate country and love metal!! We like to travel to go to concerts, lifestyle clubs, festivals, and burns (think Burning Man - we attend a local one annually that is called Wicker Man). Our ideal person/people would be able to come with us to some of these events.

2) is highly spiritual without being religiously dogmatic and is respectful of our complex and personalized set of beliefs, whether sharing them or not. Being touched by a bit of spiritual "otherness" doesn't hurt either. If you know what we mean by this, you should definitely get in touch soon!

3) is intelligent and intellectual. People who are well-educated or witty turn us on, especially when they get us on an emotional level. Another way of saying this is that we are both very sapiosexual and demisexual. We learned those terms thanks to a site that fbookhookups.com keeps erasing the name of every time that we write it.

4) (Speaking of the site that fbookhookups.com won't let us refer to) is more than a little into BDSM ?* We don't need a woman/couple to be into any aspects of BDSM in order to be a good fit for us. People just need to respect the fact that we are and not judge us for it.

5) has great long-term potential in a relationship with us. We find the process of finding the right person/people to be very exhausting, frustrating, and even painful at times, so we aren't really interested in doing this over and over again periodically as we move from short-term fling to short-term fling.

좋아하는 음악가나 밴드는?:
Pearl Jam, Seether, We as Human, Sick Puppies, Shaman's
Harvest

어떤 타입의 성적 활동이 흥분되나요?:
오럴섹스 주기, 오럴섹스 받기, 새도마조히즘, 토이(바이브레이터/딜도/등.), 주변핥기, 패티시, 가벼운 반디지, 캔들 왁스, 스팽킹, 역할 극, 3인 섹스, 상호 자위행위, 음식 플레이, 홈 무비 제작, 에로틱한 사진에 참여하기, 관조주의, 수갑/족쇄, 가슴/유두 고문, 클램프, 등., 눈 가리개, 가죽, 라텍스, 마사지

섹스 파트너를 찾을때 어떤 요인이 가장 중요한가요?:
섹스 경험, 육체적 매력, 같거나 비슷한 패티시를 즐기는가, 비밀스런 관계를 유지할 수 있는가, 탐닉에 개방적인가, 섹스 취향, 섹스에 대해 자유롭게 대화하고 새로운 것을 시도하는 것을 좋아하는가, 독창성/퇴폐성 수준

유명인사와 섹스를 하는 것에 대한 환상을 가져 본 적이 있나요? 그렇다면 누구이며 왜 그들인가요?:
Sure we have. We each have a fairly long list. Many of the
women are the same for us both. Obviously, Xac has no male
celebrities to match to my other half of Xin's list...
although there was some brief discussion about Jared Leto,
lmao

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